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Swinging – The New Monogamy?

…so someone at work left it on the table in the lunch room, and when I saw the cover I just had to pick it up and read it: A wedding cake with three figurines gracing its top – one bride, and two grooms! It was the June/July issue of Psychotherapy Networker, and the lead article bore the title “The New Monogamy.” I’ve posted the cover – you can catch the article HERE.

Dr. Tammy Nelson, the article’s author, is a licensed psychotherapist and sexologist whose book, Getting the Sex you Want, is highly recommended. In this article she’s exploring the changing definitions of monogamy and infidelity.

Why would that matter to me as an author of erotic romance? Hubby and I are writing characters caught up in the excitement of the world counselors are just coming to recognize as possibly healthy and valid. Dr. Nelson has talked with a number of couples who confirm they get together with other couples for sex dates. The sample she describes is fairly young – couples whose children are now school age, and who want to “rekindle a youthful sense of adventure, sexual excitement, and desirability” while remaining committed to each other in their primary relationship.

Most of the swinging characters we’re writing are somewhat older – at mid life, their nests are emptying – but their purpose is much the same. We, too, have talked with a number of swinging couples, as part of the research for our Swinging Games series. The individuals we’ve spoken with range in age from mid twenties to just over seventy, though most are over forty. They’ve turned to swinging for a variety of reasons. Often, the female partner (like the lead character we invented for our series) has begun to realize she has bisexual interests, and swinging is a safe way to explore those that both partners can enjoy. Others, including many who remain het in orientation, love the thrill of the chase (and being chased).

The persons we’ve talked with report the same phenomena – they are surprised and gratified by how their mutual sexual adventures enliven and recharge all aspects of their relationship. Feeling desirable, knowing your partner is highly desired, watching your partner give and receive exciting sexual experiences, learning more nuances about giving and receiving pleasure, trying out new ideas and techniques, voyeurism (especially at clubs and parties) and the thrill of more than one pair of hands giving pleasure in threesomes or foursomes are just some of the benefits couples tell us about.

Of course we’re not saying couples should or shouldn’t try out swinging to spice up their relationship – but if you find these fantasies enticing, we do recommend reading together some of the available erotic romance novels centered on swinging. Enjoying an erotic romance together is a safe way to experiment and reap at least a few of the benefits reported by couples we’ve spoken with. Here are some links to get you started:

Swing, an anthology edited by Jolie Du Pre

Swing Pointe by Kissa Starling

The Big 4-Oh by Beth Wylde

Swinging Games by Adriana Kraft

An added bonus – the body jewelry vendor listed below just found me on Twitter and gave me her links. She carries some great Swinging jewelry – all of it non-piercing, not just for nipples:

Nipple Rings from NippleCharms.com
Non Piercing Body Jewelry. All the pleasure & no pain.

Use Code Adriana for 10% Discount!


You can find all my books at Amazon.com 

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Ask the Sex Expert!

Do you think of yourself as an expert? Apparently Mr. Tweet thinks I’m an expert in Erotica – here’s the message he sent me a couple months ago: “Hi Adriana! You are invited to the Erotica community because members nominated you as an expert they’d love to hear from.”

 

Sounds enticing! I’m happy to claim being an expert on many aspects of sex and erotica – what turns me on, what fantasies I can’t resist, what I love to read – and these are the elements my husband and I take pains to put into the stories we write under our pen name Adriana Kraft. We hope you find them as entertaining and tantalizing as we do!

If you’re tempted to turn some of those fantasies into reality?? Hubby and I aren’t the experts here, and we don’t run an advice column, but we’ve found the perfect source for you: Ask Dan and Jennifer! Have you run into them? I found them on line when we were talking to friends about Swinging Games, our Extasy series on the Swing Lifestyle. I Googled some swing terms to demonstrate the range of what’s out there – and up popped a video of Dan and Jennifer explaining how one half of a married couple could start the conversation about swinging without being threatening or scaring the other partner into the next universe. Very nicely done, I might add!

So we thought it would be fun to give our readers a taste of some of the expertise Dan and Jennifer have to offer. Here’s one of my favorites: How to find your swinging comfort zone:

 

Here’s a little more about them, from their website: “Ask Dan & Jennifer is a very popular and respected Love & Sex web show, advice column, online magazine, and relationship support community.”

Their mission? “We will answer your questions openly, honestly, and without bias or judgment. Question Everything! Our mission is to help people create conscious relationships based on love and acceptance rather than fear, jealousy, anger, and ownership. It’s time to move on from outdated ideas about love and sex.” Sounds a lot like our mission, and we heartily applaud!

Check out some of their hottest topics:

How To Enhance Your Sex Life – http://bit.ly/aNnk3G

First Time Sex Tips – How To Lose Your Virginity In Style – http://bit.ly/b8gV82 

A Little Sexual Tension Can Be Just What A Relationship Needs http://bit.ly/bRPCD9

1,001 Best Places to Have Sex #172: In the Closet at a Friend’s Party – http://bit.ly/ce11Zn

How To Give A Woman Her First Orgasm (Video) – http://bit.ly/bC0AzI

Fun Sex Games To Try With Your Partner – http://bit.ly/9MIqPI

Bondage Basics – http://bit.ly/cYXPcc  Including Video & Pics!!

One Way Successful Couples Make Love Last – http://bit.ly/bAJdef  

Where to find Dan and Jennifer:

Website
YouTube channel
Dan and Jennifer TV
Dan and Jennifer on Twitter 

Have fun and play safe!

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Radio Interview Today!

Host and author Sascha Illyvich recently interviewed me for The UnNamed Romance Show at Radio Dentata. The show will air Thursday June 17 at 6:00 pm Eastern.

The UnNamed Romance Show 

I can’t remember half of what we covered but we had a great time talking about everything from LGBT erotic romance to equal marriage rights, activism, e-book publishers, the writing process, swingers, erotic romance research and more!Adriana Kraft
“The intimacy is genuine and breathtaking!”
Krista, Coffee Time Romance
https://adrianakraft.com

 

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National Orgasm Month

…so I saw something on Twitter about June being National Orgasm Month – did you know there was such a thing? I decided that’d be a great topic for my mid-month blog.

 

Googling the term brought mixed results and the verdict is not in about which month it really is. Passion Parties says October – the only month with a Big “O.” Seems appropriate! Over at Associated Content, the focus is on the Merry Month of May, what with Mother’s Day and all – moms certainly deserve a few orgasms, and I’d like to hope there were some involved in becoming a mom, so that works. At Yahoo Shine, April is the favored month, with a tip of the hat to October and a suggestion that two Orgasm Months a year, six months apart, is better than only one. To which hubby replied, only TWO months?

 

Hmm. So none of those is June and now I can’t find the original tweet. No matter – any time is a good time to celebrate! We all know how exciting an orgasm feels, and how spectacular it can to be share one with that special someone (or someones, if you’re a character in one of my erotic novels) – but why would anyone care enough to make it a special month?

Turns out there are some high powered health benefits that come with the physical and emotional turn-on of orgasms. Leafing through the June issue of Health Magazine I landed on an article “The New Numbers to Live By” and discovered that for your health, they are recommending ONE orgasm a day! A major health benefit is the release of the body’s natural opiates with their anxiety- and stress-relieving properties. In addition it leads to the release of both DHEA and estrogen, which lower bad cholesterol, improve heart function, increase bone density, and help keep skin supple and healthy. For more on the benefits, check out this article by Passion Parties – and just in case you think the benefits apply only for women, here’s a take on the plusses for the other gender, an article from AskMen.com.   

So curl up with your favorite erotic romance novel and a special partner (or more) – or, as TwoLips Reviews said when it reviewed Colors of the Night, keep a bucket of toys close at hand – and never go too long without the big O. You’ll be glad you did!  

Links to excerpts from my erotic romance novels can be found HERE. Watch for the finale in the Meghan’s Playhouse Series, coming to Whiskey Creek Press Torrid on August 15! 

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The Cougar Image – Positive or Negative?

When author/editor Jolie DuPre conceptualized The Cougar Book and put out her call for submissions over a year ago, both halves of Adriana were thrilled. We knew immediately we wanted to be in that book and we had no problem coming up with our fantasy of a perfect evening for an older woman’s first time out with a stunning younger man. We’re proud to have made the cut – our story, “A Taste of Ginger,” is one of the twenty-two stories finally selected for the anthology, released on Valentine’s Day 2010 at Logical Lust and available in both print and e-book.

We’ve never hesitated celebrating the powerful and enticing imagery we associate with the image of the cougar. In the words of The Cougar Book’s introduction by Valerie Gibson, Canadian TV personality and author, cougars are

“skilled—and creative—in the sexual arts . . .They love to make love and enjoy it for what it is—a joyful, satisfying, energizing, and life-enhancing activity that keeps you youthful and vital. What’s more, it’s fun! It’s a rare and precious attribute for any woman, but when it comes with enthusiasm and few strings attached? Priceless!”

 

Both of us are also longtime fans of TV and film star Kim Cattrall. In her role as “Samantha” in Sex and the City and in her personal life, she epitomizes the positive qualities we associate with “cougar.” Through her books and many personal appearances she continues to encourage women to embrace their lives, their bodies and their sexuality. Some quotes:

Asked by Amazon.com to explain what she means by sexual intelligence: “A person who knows what they like! And has some idea why … I used the word intelligence in the title of the book and the documentary because it reflects my desire to gather whatever insights, inspirations, and information that could nourish the part of us that is sexual and sensual, so that it might be strong and function well.”

 

In a recent interview for TheaterMania.com promoting Sex and the City II: “We have encouraged a lot of women to change the way they feel about being single, about having cancer, being lonely, and I think that’s a powerful thing in this era of post-feminism. I think we have helped to find what it is to be successful, smart, and feminine.”

 

But it turns out she – and many others – think the term is derogatory and the cougar trend is on its way out. PopEater.com puts it this way in Saying goodbye to the Cougar Trend:

“And so now it looks like we’re going to have to look at Pfeiffer, Cox, Cattrall and other aging actress for what they really are: confident, successful women whose talent has kept them in the spotlight beyond an arbitrary media-determined sell-by date. Rather than agree to hide behind some sort of cartoon send-up of what an attractive older woman is, these ladies are redefining how we see life after you spot that first wrinkle.”

 

Cattrall recently turned down a cover spot on a major women’s magazine because they wanted her to pose with a cougar – and to her, that term and that imagery are derogatory. She told Extra “I really take umbrage to the code ‘cougar’ …I think cougar has a negative connotation, and I don’t see anything negative about Samantha and her sexuality, sensuality and choice.” Over at The Today Show in an interview with Meredith Viera she clarified, “I feel there is nothing predatory about a woman of a certain age. The stereotype is that the woman is searching for young men like they’re prey, and I just don’t think that’s good enough.”

We’ve received lots of positive comments from readers who are inspired by the cougar concept and love the fantasies, so we’re curious – what does the cougar image mean to YOU? Positive or negative, celebratory or derogatory, powerful or demeaning? Eager to hear from you!

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Free Read!

Our erotic romance novella Cherry Tune-Up is now being serialized at literotica.com – as a special gift to our readers, you can read a new chapter every two weeks, for free! This book was previously published to rave reviews in 2007, but the publisher closed its doors later that year and all rights have reverted to us.

REVIEW SNIPPETS: 

Two Lips Reviews Four and a half Kisses “The sexual chemistry explodes off the pages and leaves you fanning yourself.” Reviewed by Tara.

Romance Junkies Reviews Four and a half Blue Ribbons “Ms. Kraft has a gift for pleasing the reader with vivid imagery and erotic language. Fasten your seat belts – this story is one hot ride that you don’t want to miss.” Reviewed by Deborah. 

Fallen Angel Reviews Four Angels “Adriana Kraft wonderfully creates a rip-rollicking great tale with stunning dialogue that keeps the reader spellbound from the beginning to the end.” Reviewed by Linda L.

BLURB 

Plucky Bobbi Jo Martin, a rising star in the banking industry, is a totally inexperienced virgin.  Now she has only two weeks to transform herself into a skilled lover so she won’t disappoint her fiancé’s expectations.  Desperate, she turns to her childhood friend. 

A successful contractor who harbors NASCAR racing dreams, Jack Day has never forgotten his high school sweetheart.  No way can he turn her down—but how is he to protect his heart?  In a moment of sheer genius he decides to play the role of master!  For ten excruciating days Bobbi Jo revels in Jack’s intoxicating care…

 

Watch for Chapter 2, coming June 1, 2010!

Adriana

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Three-Way – Which ways do you like it?

The first erotic romance my husband and I wrote together under our pen name Adriana Kraft was filled with hot three-way scenes between the immortal Love Goddess Aria and the mortal couple whose marriage she came to save, Ryan and Jamie Hazleton. We’ve never looked back – nearly all our stories have at least three-way encounters, sometimes more, and most of our heroines are bisexual. We wrote (and still write) what we love to read, scenes that turn us on, even when we read, re-read, edit and polish them. Scenes that fill our fantasy life—scenes we’d love to find ourselves in the middle of. We hope you do, too.

Colors of the Night ~ Excerpt

What’s been fascinating for us is how our tastes have expanded, once those doors opened. We now find ourselves writing a much wider range. We’ve played with the unique pleasures two men can bring to one woman – April Day’s fantasies of a D.P. come to mind, now available in print in our 2in1 release at Whiskey Creek Press Torrid, Meghan’s Playhouse Vol. 2.

 
 

 

 

But it’s been our swinging characters, Jen and Brett Andrews, who pushed us over the brink into three-ways that include m/m. Turns out it’s not only Jen who discovers she’s bi at mid life – Brett has been bi-curious for longer than he’s let anyone know. He sampled a small taste in Swinging Games: A Tempting Taste, and now he’s ready for more in Swinging Games: Complexities. Here’s a small sample for your reading pleasure:

 

 

What if the neighbors find out –
and what if they want to join in?
Delectable complexities unfold
as Jen and Brett continue their swinging adventures!

 

 

EXCERPT

“Christ, this guy is torturing me.” Dan’s fingers dug into Brett’s shoulder.

Brett raised his head to read his partner better.

“No, don’t stop. This is incredible torture.”

“Make sure you let us know when you’ve had enough or are close,” Jen cautioned.

“I will. Keep going, Brett. Please.”

Brett smiled around the cock he’d slipped back into his mouth, more than a little pleased their new bi friend was in such a dither due to him. He sank deeper down the cock, taking as much as he could easily manage, amazed at how its width stretched his mouth.

“Damn, I like watching a man go down on my man.”

Out of the corner of his eye, he saw Brenda palming her pussy. He peeked at Jen to see her doing the same. He shuttered his eyes, waiting for something—for what, he wasn’t quite sure. At least the women were enjoying the show, and from the sounds of Dan’s labored breathing, he wasn’t complaining either.

Brett stretched as taut as he could. His balls ached. And then he heard the beat. Was it coming from his head, his balls or Dan’s cock? It didn’t matter. Keeping fingers wrapped tightly around the base of Dan’s penis, Brett began to bob up and down like so many women had done for him in the past.

Even with his eyes closed, his vision blurred. He had to remember to breathe. Fingers encircled his cock. He wasn’t sure whose and he didn’t care. All he wanted was to share some the sensations coursing through his body with Dan—at the point of their connection.

He slowed, not wanting this electrifying exchange to end too soon. He backed off a little and nibbled briefly before resuming his dance with Dan’s cock.

“How in the hell did you learn how to suck cock like this?” Dan wailed. “Jesus.”

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Hot New Review and Upcoming Reading

Colors of the Night just received a Top Pick from MonicaBBB at Night Owl Reviews! 

This book is excellent. I love the idea of the Goddess of Love teaching this couple how to love and accept love. The characters are normal people, just a normal couple with normal issues and the Goddess is—well—a Goddess, so she is not normal but she is still incredibly sexy and confident…Another great story by Adriana Kraft! 

            NOR Top Pick   

I’ll be reading an excerpt from this spicy paranormal adventure live Monday night, April 12, at 11pm EDT on blogtalk radio:  http://www.blogtalkradio.com/other_worlds_of_romance. Colors of the Night is available at Extasy Books, Fictionwise, and Amazon.com.

 BLURB

The dazzling and timeless love goddess Aria pays a visit to struggling thirty-something Jamie and Ryan Hazleton, who are on the brink of divorce.  When the hot sex that results from her first lesson cools to icy glares, Aria decides to move in with them and provide more experiential learning.  Can Ryan overcome his jealousy of Jamie’s uninhibited response to the delectable goddess? What if he succumbs to his own desires?  Only time will tell whether this love triangle with an immortal will ignite or extinguish the dying embers of Jamie and Ryan’s love.

 

Click HERE for an excerpt.

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My Life on Twitter

I joined Twitter slightly over a year ago, on the advice of @bookgal Penny Sansevieri after listening to her keynote speech at the 2009 EPICon. The point, as I understood it then, was to get my “brand” in front of more potential readers—especially, readers who might not have joined any of the nearly 100 fiction-specific yahoo groups I then belonged to, readers who didn’t know my hot LGBT erotic romance e-books were exactly what was missing in their lives. It’s been a fascinating year. 

I now have nearly 1500 followers and follow roughly the same number. Who are they? In the beginning, they were other erotic romance writers and the people who followed them. But I have a couple of specific niche markets—the LGBT community and the swing lifestyle. These make for some interesting bedfellows, so to speak. 

I follow and support LGBT causes and marriage equality. I’ve “met” Dr. Loren Olson (@LorenAOlsonMD), a Des Moines psychiatrist who came out as gay at mid life and, since he lives in Iowa, is now married to his partner. He’s interviewing men with similar stories and writing a book about it. Contact him if that’s you!  

One of my favorite encounters was taking the “how hetero are you” quiz from @StockholmPride and discovering that, based on my twitter friends and the language in my tweets, I am only 1% hetero. I was so excited I blogged about it—you can still take the quiz, at http://www.stockholmpride.org/howhetero/ . 

I discovered the power of hash marks to bring me instantly into the community of peeps involved in any specific event. This past month I’ve loved tweeting with other peeps following #NCAA March Madness, especially the night UNI beat first-seed Kansas to move into the Sweet Sixteen. But it works for any breaking news. Last October I couldn’t be in Washington D.C. for the National Equality March, but watching it on C-Span and being part of the conversation at #NEM was beyond powerful, and I blogged about that, too. 

Swing lifestyle (focus of a hot series I’m writing at Extasy Books) brings me some pretty sizzling connections—swing clubs, swingers, sex toy stores, and even porn stars, pretty much anyone with an interest in eroticism. In case you didn’t know, “Adriana Kraft” is the pen name under which my husband and I write erotic romance with mainly bisexual heroines. Swinging, it turns out, is one solution for a heroine who finally figured out at mid-life that she is bi.  

I’ll just shout out some of those fun connections: @chantelleaustin is an Australian Life Coach and Swinger who has written a guide for peeps new to the swing lifestyle. @PaulasPleasures runs a neat toy store and describes herself this way: “Pleasure Expert and Party Consultant, Teaching women how to Ignite the Passion in their love lives.” Sounds good to me! @DrMiaRose runs a website called Better Sex For Women packed with fab tips and info.  

And just for fun, I follow some of the rich and famous. It was neat to catch @ApoloOhno’s tweets while he (and we) watched Olympic figure skating. If @TheEllenShow has anything great going on, I hear about it first on Twitter. Former Tonight Show host @ConanOBrien has to stay off TV and has chosen Twitter for his medium, usually a single tweet per day, sometimes a joke. From watching #NEM, I picked up @BillieMyers and @ladygaga, so now I’m always on top of what they’re up to.  

Hope you’ll follow me @adrianakraft on Twitter – wonder what the next year will bring!

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The Truth about Adriana…

Okay, we got tagged by not one but TWO author friends to challenge you to figure out the truth about us! Kissa Starling and Lara Zielinski – both of whom write fabulous lesbian and bisexual erotic fiction – started the ball rolling, and each of them has tagged us! The challenge? Make a list of statements only some of which are true, and let readers guess!

I think we’ll have lots of fun with this one – there are two of us, after all, writing erotic romance together under the pen name Adriana Kraft. So here goes: all but two of the following statements are true about one or the other of us. The prize? A free e-book (pdf format) of the first book in our Swinging Games Series: Anticipation. To enter, send us an email (adrianakraft99 @ yahoo.com without the spaces) and tell us which TWO statements are NOT true! We’ll give you a week to sort this out and we’ll draw a winner from the correct entries next Friday, March 12.

One or the other (or both!) of us:

1. has lived in 11 states

2. was a Peace Corps volunteer in South America

3. has a successful academic career in the social sciences

4. has conducted research in a legal brothel

5. has owned race horses

6. has travelled in nineteen foreign countries

7. has canoed the Canadian Boundary Waters

8. was lead vocalist in a band on Chicago’s North Side

9. has received Shamanic training

10. has slept at the Beverly Wilshire in Beverly Hills

11. started writing my first novel in grade school

12. has a published novel in the archives at the Erotic Heritage Museum

Can’t wait to see what you think!

We now officially tag the following authors – find out what the truth is about them, if you dare!

Cassandra Gold

Regina Carlysle

CJ England

Paige Tyler

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